Tôi không thể thường xuyên bỏ công việc để đi xuống thăm cha, nhưng mỗi ngày tôi phải điện thoại, điện thư liên lạc với bác sĩ, dược sĩ, y tá và những người săn sóc cho cha tôi tại viện dưỡng lão. Tôi cố gắng thu xếp để mỗi hai tháng đến với cha tôi một cái cuối tuần, và mỗi năm về một tuần vacation vào dịp lễ Tạ Ơn hay Giáng Sinh. Tôi biết là cha tôi rất mừng mỗi lần thấy con đến thăm. Cái ánh mắt của cha tôi khi nhìn tôi chào ra về bao giờ cũng theo tôi suốt chuyến bay. Hôm nay cũng thế, khi ngửa cổ ra sau ghế để tìm một giấc ngủ ngắn trên phi cơ, tôi nhìn rất rõ lại hai con mắt của cha tôi.
Cái thùng thư ba, bốn ngày không có người lấy, hay đống báo thành chồng trước hiên nhà, cỏ không cắt, lá không cào, các cửa sổ không mở là dấu hiệu cho hàng xóm biết nên báo cho cảnh sát vì chủ nhân trong căn nhà đó ở một mình và là một người già.
Nỗi lo âu của một người không có thân bằng quyến thuộc ở gần lúc tuổi già không phải là nỗi lo âu "quá đáng". Ðó là một điều chúng ta nên nghĩ đến khi còn có thể tìm hiểu và thu xếp cho chính mình.
Bà Barbara Gordon có mẹ già 92 tuổi sống ở Florida, trong khi bà làm việc ở New York bà đã đặt ra câu hỏi "Who will be ME for me."
Những câu hỏi trên đưa đến những câu trả lời khác nhau mà câu nào cũng rất mơ hồ.
"Có bạn bè ở mọi lứa tuổi."
"Kết thân với hàng xóm."
"Một bác sĩ thân thiện và có lương tâm" rất cần.
"Dược sĩ trẻ hơn mình nhiều tuổi."
"Tiêu ít, để dành nhiều."
Cần kiệm luôn luôn là một đức tính.
"Ăn uống cẩn thận hơn."
"Thể thao nhiều hơn"
Ngay bây giờ phải là "MÌNH".
Hoặc: "Ngày mai Chủ Nhật bà có đi chùa không? Sẽ có xe đón đấy."
Trần Mộng Tú
I am a single (and childless), I'm 50 years old this year. I live in
From the day my mother died my father lives alone, he refused to leave the house for the past five months and I can not leave the house to prepare for his father.
Last spring my father fell and put a hip pool side.
Now my father in a nursing home for the elderly and ailing father put me on the list to take care of a full circle of the clock hanging in his room. Since eating is sitting, walking, cleaning, what is the most most nurses. The sad thing is that while receiving all the service only for the body of my father's mind remains clear that he's a math professor up decades ago.
I often can not leave work to go to visit his father, but every day I have to phone, e-mail contact with doctors, pharmacists, nurses and caregivers for my father in a nursing home. I tried to arrange every two months with my father one last week, and a week of vacation every year on the occasion of Thanksgiving or Christmas.I know my father very happy every time that you visit. The eyes of my father when I popped out to see as well as I ever during the flight. Today, too, the stock heads back seat to nap on the plane, I saw very clearly the eyes of my father.
Suddenly I wondered, "When I am weak in old age. Who will be the 'I' back and forth to take care of regularly asking me?".
A single person with no siblings and elderly people without children, who have not lived the same state, or to take a far more in other countries, it will fall into the age old situation when diving as the sun sets over the sea.
The barrel Tuesday, four days without a grab, or a stack of papers husband porch, uncut grass, rake leaves, do not open the windows for signs that neighbors should report to the police because employers home alone and there is an old man.
Anxiety of someone who has no close relatives in old age is not a worry "too much". It is one thing to think about when we can find out and arrange for yourself.
Barbara Gordon is 92 years old elderly mother lives in
- Where will I live?
- How will I live?
- I do not have enough money?
- Who would I care if I lose the ability to work?
- If I fell (old time) on the ground two or three days, why?
- One day if I have to leave the house I'm in?
These questions lead to different answers and vague statements.
Finally they came to the conclusion: The way we live now will greatly influence his life in old age.
They list the following as a guideline:
"There are friends of all ages."
Never thought I could just close to the same age or in the same situation as yourself. Agree that they understand themselves better, but also just to hear the lamentation of the same, nothing new.
- Dealing with younger people and children back to their way of thinking and dealing with life "this" is.
- Dealing with older people themselves to inherit their wisdom.
"Make friends with the neighbors." Sure you do not want to fall to the floor, lying on the ground two days before but no one came to the area.
A call to a neighbor's door when your life to save it.
Navigate a neighbor's house when he was a very well to do.
There are close neighbors and even traffic information for more house keys.
Where older people are scared about the physical loss, the most precious is myself only.
If two families with infants and small children next to each other in that friendly is something very precious.
Avoid a lot of impact on children and helpful to each other as they age.
"A friendly doctor with a conscience" are required.
He is a doctor who is ready for you when you need to. One who never refused to explain a question does not seem to be a few of you correctly. (The question is not what the experience of young people and old people too dull.)
"Pharmacists much younger than his age."
Buy drugs for these people, you get them to explain clearly and more friendly. The age at which patients should the young pharmacist.
"Text less, save more."
- Young people save for tomorrow.
- The post reserved for the elderly.
Frugal is always a virtue.
"Eating more careful."
Food has always been a major cause for health.
The people of any country are proud of the culinary culture of their country.
But the stomach of the galaxy's only goal to consume soft foods, low fat and nutritious.
You just listen to your body react different after every meal, then you will understand immediately what it meant.
Everyone knows that the body needs, the healthy new campaign and a new mind sharp.
Just sitting all day typing piles piles (like myself) in the computer, or watching movies like most of the older Vietnamese, is definitely not right.
- Stand up.
- The young athletic young, older people have sports activities for his age.
- If it does not go very far around the neighborhood, or swung, kicking his legs in the home straight.
- Do not sit still. Birds in the garden is calling you.
Right now is "YOU".
Someone asked: "Who loved me best"
The answer: "I love myself the most"
Since her husband (wife) and their children do not pity themselves by their own name. Husband (wife) and I can not take responsibility for your body. They share only a part.
If you now get things done on your own, then later in life you have to pretty much take care of.
Because someone, not his relatives (the neighbor) will remind you "tonight at 9:00 with the reading of the radio (Vietnamese) or too.
Or: "On Sunday morning she did not go the temple? There will be a shuttle there."
(Tran Mong Tu)